How to Overcome the Feeling of Failure.

The feeling of failure is such a common experience in all of our lives, in one way or another, and at different times.

Have you ever come to the point where you've been working so hard on something, whether investing a lot of time into a business, or project, or relationship, or spending years grinding away at a business feeling like you should of been further along, or buying course after course and training after training but none of it seems to be getting you to where you hope to be?

From my own experience, usually any of these cycles are linked to what I believe to be true - which makes it clear that it's the same for most of us, so in the simplest context, if someone believes they're poor and reminds themselves of that daily in innumerable ways, it's like an exit-less magic circle - there's literally no way out, until they believe it's possible...

In another sense, in a very similar way if you feel you're always on the edge of a break and wondering why it never happens, then you'll be on the edge of that break, always wondering why it never happens. 

Beliefs are a tough nut to crack, especially as they're mostly on autopilot, and are ingrained deep into the depths of your mind where you usually aren't even aware of your repetitive thoughts that keep running like a cracked record.

We say to ourselves, sure why would I put all this work in if I didn't believe I can make it? That's a totally logical thought process, of course.

But under the surface, in the depths of the subconscious fear is also doing its work, and every time there's a mistake, or a setback or loss we move further down the rabbit hole, and when we have a triumph we take a step back up, but that game of up-and-down only keeps you on that ladder, for way, way longer than you need to be there.

So, what do you do? 

Well, I'm no expert in the subtleties of the human mind, but the way I see it there are (2 simple steps):

Step 1 

Although kind of a long term solution, it's absolutely worth the effort and only requires a little time each day, every day though. So you can change your beliefs slowly by using meditation, affirmations, positive thinking (when a negative thought captures your attention, focus on something positive instead), feel gratitude for all the aspects of your life you can, but this will take time, as you'll need to take daily action to change those pillars of beliefs and then, astonishingly, the world around you starts changing in line with the extent your beliefs change.

Very much along the lines of, you find what you're looking for, in the sense that, if you believe people often smile at you, and remind yourself of this often, then they tend to, and if you're always upset and see everyone as angry, you'll see that too... So what do you want, for yourself?

Sorta need to decide, because it matters, and as ridiculous as it seems logically at times, it's actually a choice.

Step 2

Don't wait. Make those changes. Buy that course, work through it, just set the time aside and DO IT, call that person, send that email, do whatever it takes! Stop procrastinating, then make the whole process of taking action as enjoyable as you possibly can. 

Ask yourself, "What do I need to do for myself to fall in love with the 'action taking' I need to do to change my life for the better? 

If it's sitting on a hilltop at sunset with a Prosecco picnic to brainstorm your ideas, or write that content or research those leads, then you DO IT... I give you full permission (in fact I insist upon it) to have fun while you get out of any slump you may be in, because you deserve the best in life, we all do, but it takes deciding what you want, focussing on it, making it happen, accepting failure along the way (because you learn from trying) and keeping your vision close, moving forward, day after day.

Is it all worth it, all that effort? I think so... I think you're worth it, and I believe you deserve your best life too.