I was overjoyed this week to hear from one of my members and mentorship clients who had taken some advice I gave her on board which resulted in a brand spanking new client in less than 24 hours. The advice impacted her mindset so much, and she received so much value from this concept I teach, that I have decided to share this with you in this post.
This is what arrived in my Facebook Group yesterday morning:
When we got on a Skype chat, I was thrilled to receive comments like, "I just had to tell you again how awesome you are and how grateful I am." and "Scary, but liberating and I feel so much better. " and "When I was going into that consult yesterday… I just knew I was gonna get this client, I just knew it." - All pretty positive outcomes right there, and I was feeling the warm fuzzies for her... I was also feeling that you guys deserve to know what this is all about.
The member who I'm mentoring, let's call her Rachel, had been working with a client for several months. Rachel relied on this client to support her income, and she had got into a cycle of what I call the "underworld" - I call it that for 2 reasons...
1. The first is because everything is "under" - under-valued, under-paid, under-appreciated, under-whelmed under..... Fill in the blank.
2. The second reason is because just like on the vampire movie "Underworld," working with clients like that, or having any kind of "under" experience can literally suck the life out of you.
When you have an underworld client, or anything in your business that's leaving you in an underworld state of mind, there's only one thing for it, it has to go in order for you to move forward.
It can go in one of 2 ways. The thing that's causing the underworld effect can change. In my experience it's rare that this happens. The second way, is that the thing causing the underworld effect is removed from your life.
But the problem is this, our fear can prevent us from removing the thing causing the underworld effect. We feel that we need that thing for multiple reasons, but income is usually the primary one.
So we don't want to give up the underworld thing, because we'll lose an income. This is where the tightrope comes in.
Imagine you're on a tightrope, underneath you is the underworld thing, and it appears as a safety net. You somehow know that if you rely on the underworld thing, you won't feel good about it, nobody watching you wants to see you fall off the tightrope right, but you take some strange comfort almost in knowing it's there.
On the end of the tightrope, directly ahead of you, is freedom. It could be a bigger, brighter, better alternative to your underworld thing - a new client, a higher income, more time, more money... Whatever is the better version of your circumstance.
But, in order to obtain the freedom on the end of the tightrope, you must first remove the safety net, and have faith in yourself that you'll get to the other side. This is easier said than done. Because once the safety net is gone, you're going to feel very, very vulnerable.
But here's the thing...
Consider the tightrope walking skill, as your skills, abilities, and unwaivering determination to succeed. First, find a place in yourself, where you have faith in your skills and abilities more than anything else in the world.
Then, you'll realise, you don't need the underworld safety net below you. You wave down below, and have the net removed. This, in the real world, is removing the underworld thing from your life.
Once you've done that, you will have removed the one thing that could have prevented you from getting to the other side, now you know you have no choice but to get to the other side, because your safety net is gone.... So you focus only on the end goal, and you use all your skill and ability that you have 100% faith in to walk a tightrope and get to the other side. Do you think a tightrope walker envisions falling off the rope, no of course not, the tightrope walker sees themselves walking all the way to the other side. So see yourself getting there.
This is really just a basic explanation. When I was on my mentorship call with this member, I went over this in detail and applied it to her situation.
Yesterday, she contacted me to tell me that the client (her underworld thing) was gone, and in less than 24 hours, she had got herself to the other side of the tightrope - using her skills, abilities and determination, and she now has a brand new client.True story.
So next time you find that you're in a world of "under," that's sucking the life out of you, try thinking of it as a simple tightrope, remove the safety net, see only good things waiting for you on the other end, have enduring faith that you're the best tightrope walker on the planet, put one foot in front of the other, until you get to the other side.