I made a vow to myself when I launched my new website design in April, that I would always bring you truth from my experiences on this blog, no matter how weird or bizarre or hard to swallow it may be, and this is one of those times where I would of thought, "Nah, nobody want's to hear that" - but actually I think you need to.
So, in 2013, I started journalling. Writing down my experiences in life based on a series of experiments with the world in health, wellbeing, business, finance etc... I was noticing a pattern, that no matter how much money I was making, I'd never push past a certain point when it came to money in the bank.
For example, I've literally had times where I've made an extra €20,000 in a month on top of what I need, and then something comes up that allocates the money elsewhere, bills, car trouble, helping a friend, needing to buy stuff for my kids - anything really.
In my journals, when I became aware of this pattern I thought it was a little weird, no matter what I made, I always made enough, but I always kind of had it go elsewhere.
In July 2013 myself and my husband put this to the test. We went on a crazy spending spree, basically if we had the money in the bank, we'd buy whatever we wanted and would do whatever we wanted.
That month, we purchased a dishwasher, washing machine, iPad, went on holiday to Santorini, took the kids on 2 boat trips, ate meals out 2 to 3 nights a week (we were a family of 4 at the time), I purchased an outfit for over €200 euro (I never do that!), and made other random smaller purchases. I deal on a cash only basis (no credit cards) so if we don't have the money in the account it doesn't get spent.
All in all we spent throughout the month an additional €3,000 (approximately) on top of what we would normally spend, and low and behold, without me doing any additional work, and actually being away from my desk more because we were out all the time, I made exactly the additional money to cover every purchase.
I've never done such an extreme experiment as that since, but I have wrote many times about such situations. They are all linked to increase in business.
For example, a couple of months back, we had some bills that needed paying and sometimes if I'm not in 'spiritual' mode, and don't feel connected to something higher than money, I'll often go into 'work' mode, like the more work I do the more money I'll make, gotta get these bills paid. But when I overwork, and it takes me away from the things that make me feel good, maybe I'll skip exercise, or not eat right, or miss my daily meditation, I start spiralling into a general feeling of "Blah" - the feeling is like being on autopilot, just getting through the day.
When I'm in "Blah" I do notice a decrease in my business overall - less sales, or clients surfacing who I don't feel I want to work with etc...
Occasionally during those "Blah" times, I'll have a moment of clarity and tell myself I have to feel better - so I'll go and do something that makes me feel better.
One day I went to the beach and sat in front of the water - I come home, business came in while I was out...
Then one day, I decided to go out and treat myself to a pair of shoes I'd been wanting, I come back, business came in, more than enough to cover several pairs of shoes.
Last week, I had a load of paperwork to deal with, a car accident and other stuff - I was feeling pretty "Blah" - I go out to dinner with my family, I come home, business comes in.
At each point I physically and mentally make a statement to get rid of the "Blah" feeling, and not allow it to take hold of me, it feels like I'm being rewarded. If I let the "Blah" in and take over - business slows down.
You may call this coincidence, but in my world there are no coincidences, only signs, sometimes very clear ones, that we should pay attention to if we're going to get ahead in life.
The moral of this story, if you want more business, and you've been working your rear end off to get it and nothing is happening and you're feeling some sort of negative feelings about that, the prescription is to go and do things that make you feel good, until you can become in a state of bliss that will open the door to more business.