We've all had bad days at work, right? With Friday 13th looming this week, the more superstitious among us may even be expecting one... It doesn't matter if you own a business or you're employed, even the most positive of people will experience them. Circumstances can change, people can not be where they're supposed to be, do what they're supposed to do, work doesn't always go the way you'd hoped and you feel like no matter what you do, it's your destiny to simply not have things go right for you. In today's post I'd like to share a few things I remind myself of when I'm having one of those days.
1 - Be Careful What You Wish For.Worrying is like wishing for what you don't want.
Bad days can stem from or grow into a certain degree of worry, you worry that something may not work out, someone will be upset with you, or there will be consequences to the events of the days that have a negative impact on your life. I know it's hard not to worry when we have all sorts of worst outcome probabilities and predictions going on in our heads, but the worrying only makes those outcomes more probable... Worrying will likely produce or put emphasis on the result you don't want to see, so try to stop the worry and consider instead all the positive, best case scenario outcomes.
#2 - You Can Ask For Help.
Talk to the powers that be.
Bad days can leave us feeling helpless - Why me! Why today! We don't know what to do and we feel like we're completely alone... The fact is that you're never alone, there are forces of nature and natural laws that are constantly working towards giving us what we want, so be open to talking to god, to the universe, talk to the flamin' trees if you want, and ask for help, ask for the outcome, ask for relief or reconciliation or resolution. You've nothing to lose by doing this...
Last month I published a video tutorial on sleep patterns for productivity inside my Passport Members Club, in there I state that each night I list out my challenges and ask the universe to help me with them (fully expecting a response) - it might sound quirky, but 9 times out of 10, I wake up knowing exactly what I need to do... That's comforting ;-)
#3 - It Might Be A Sign...
I have bad days doing what I love and also doing what I don't love. When they come from doing what I love, I see it as progress, a chance to improve, and learn - when I get them from doing what I don't love, I just feel flat, like I've wasted valuable time and effort and nothing good came of it.
Maybe some of your bad days are an indicator that you may need a change of direction... You should think about that next time you have one.
#4 - How Bad Is It... Really?
Ask yourself, "How bad is this, really?" Take a step back and get a little perspective, check your surroundings, check your pulse - you're still breathing I hope, is it really the end of the world? Or is that just your reaction? If you were the calmest, most centred, most balanced individual on the planet - would you be reacting in the same way, or differently?
What if you diverted your attention to all the good things that have happened, wouldn't that make you feel better, or even grateful that the bad days are few and far between. How other people react to situations is entirely their choice - people panic, scream, lose their temper, feel sad, angry etc... but how you react is up to you. Maybe your bad day could simply be changed or turned around if you had a different emotional reaction to it.
#5 - You've Done Your Best.
The chances are that whatever happened in the bad day, whatever failed, didn't work, went wrong etc... it has been more beneficial in the long term than if it hadn't happened (hard to take, I know).
If you really want to turn your bad day around try celebrating the good that's come out of it - think to yourself, "Well I won't be making that mistake again" or "I'll know what to do next time to prevent this from happening" - that's what you need to focus on... The experience you've gained, the strength you've had to pull through it, the solutions you've found.
Just take a breath and smile, this day shall pass...